NEW ALBANY, IN (Feb. 14, 2013) – Calling the search for a soul mate “work” sucks the romance right out of the chase, but the notion is grounded in reality. Finding that special someone shares the fundamentals of an effective job search: Who you know is key, it takes time, and online efforts are over-rated. “Every great relationship, romantic or business or otherwise, begins with small talk. These relationships start with a simple conversation,” said Bernardo J. Carducci, psychology professor and director of the Shyness Research Institute at Indiana University Southeast.